I write for a living. I do it every day of my life. Yet when it comes to trying to sell myself, I just can't do it. 1) Perhaps I love my work more than myself. If that is attractive to you, I've got some really good news. Hang on a sec. Being superficial, it is the best interest of a relationship that I not be looking at another woman; which by the way is genetic; we all do it; it's not a flaw. 2) A pretty girlfriend certainly reduces a man's natural urge to gaze around. Hey, that's just how it is. We didn't make it up. Just like the way you cup your hand on your butt cheek when you get up from a table and walk away. It's really quite humorous if you think about it. This is giving you an unfair advantage, isn't it? 3) When a man runs from commitment he is not running to get away. He is running to get you to chase him. Rather, validate him. He needs to feel that you think he is the hottest guy in the room; smartest at his work; handy around the house; admired by your friends; and above all, unsurpassed in the exercising of his romantic endeavors. Give Just 3 Things and He Will Give You All He Can Provide 1) Let his work comes first. It fulfills his greatest need as a provider. It makes him a better man for you. 2) He must believe, so he can act like, you are the prettiest girl in the room. Beauty is NOT only skin deep but it is in the eyes of the beholder. Allow him to love you for your physical, mental and emotional beauty. 3) He must continually be convinced in every aspect of your lives that HE IS THE MAN! Chase him and let him run. Give only those three little things, and naturally enjoy it, and you will get everything he can possibly provide for you. If that doesn't come naturally for you, keep looking. When that happens; stop looking. He will give you the love you have always longed for. I honestly wish you happiness. Never settle. M.